Is It Too Early To Start Dreading V-Day?
Posted in At Home and tagged with Judgement, MPW, Valentine's Day, Writer's Workshop on 01/14/2010 09:15 am by Jenn
Today I am going to do something a bit different. Mama Kat @ Mama Kat’s Losin’ It hosts writing prompts (go here to see the prompt page) and although I have read many of them with glee, I have never participated. However, “the time has come” as the Walrus said. This week one of the prompts is:
1.) Time for your tangent…what is your latest complaint?
(inspired by Jill from I Don’t Want An Oscar) (BTW, I Don’t Want An Oscar is a Freakin Awesome Blog, you should totally check it out!)
Well, you may or may not know, but I love a good rant. I’ve done it and I love when other people have them. Why? Because it totally means I am not the only one who gets worked up over the small and seemingly insignificant details of life. I’ve ranted about the Library and the stupid eye-poking tree and now I am going to rant about V-Day. I shouldn’t really be surprised seeing as how Christmas is starting in Aprilnow, but the posts in bloggyland are coming fast and furious for V-Day gift ideas, treats, activities, blah, blah, blah…
Ooooooo. *shaking my fist* I HATE Valentine’s Day. I pretty much always have. Now, before you go calling me all bitter, hear me out. I am in a relationship. In fact, MPW shows up frequently on my blog (usually because he’s made me angry, but whatev). So, my disdain for the stupidest day of the year is not because I am lonely and tired of making it about friendship love where we all get together and eat raw cookie dough and complain about men (that has never happened BTW). When I tell people I don’t do V-Day they roll their eyes and immediately ask if it’s because I’m single, so I thought I would put that to rest.
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I hate V-Day because I think it is the most commercial, unnecessary and meaningless “holiday” of the year. (I even hesitate to say holiday because we don’t get time off. Maybe if we did it would be something I could get behind). Nope, Christmas is about spending time with family and baby Jesus. Thanksgiving is spending time with family and giving thanks for your blessings. Easter is about spending time with family and adult Jesus. Canada Day is appreciateing your country and spending time with your fellow Canadians. Valentine’s Day is just an excuse for the men who got their wives insulting gifts for Christmas to get them a better present to make up. Let’s face it, sleeping on the couch loses it’s appeal after 1 month. Then one week is spent trying to think of the perfect idea; one that will get them off the couch, but won’t be so good they won’t be able to top it next year. Then 4 days gearing up to go to the mall/store. Then the day of to pull it all together (which is inevitably why the woman gets to sleep in, because he is running out to get your present).
Okay, so that is part one of why I hate it and dread it each year. The next part is (which is arguably the most important) I hate that you are told how to feel. That today, of all days, is the one day that you are supposed to proclaim your love, and be perfect in your relationships, and say sorry. Why not every day? Plus, you know that everyone else is doing/saying the same things, so what makes it special? If you really love me, flowers for no reason on any other day would mean a bucket load more than flowers on a day that you feel obligated and it is what you are “supposed” to do. All those people going to restaurants with overpriced meals and buying over priced flowers and using up all that red construction paper. It’s just depressing.
I know it’s a month away, but man, the fever has already started.
On the plus side, MPW is the most envied man in his office. When I met him I told him if he did anything I would break up with him. He was actually happy to oblige and still is. Now he even stopped asking “are you sure?” and looking at me as if this was a test.
Yeah, That Just Happened!
January 14th, 2010 at 10:45 am
Ahhh v-day haters…. you have never wavered… but to you I say ptttttttt :p All hail Vday. I love it even when I am not in a relationship. You get chocolates from people (even at the gym!!! partyyyyy) and cards that tell you how great you are with trains on them telling you they choo choo choose you. I loved vday when we were little and giving me a card was a joke because i was so undesirable (obviously cause they didnt know how to deal with my awsomeness)… FREE CHOCOLATE a whole day filled with FREEE CHOCOLATE and cinnamon hearts and ridiculous cartoonish suns and everyone talking about love instead of hate and kindness instead of cruelty and halarious costumes for pets and hope…this is a great day..and cupcakes with hearts on them and hugs and flowers and hope
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Jenn Reply:
January 14th, 2010 at 10:50 am
*sigh* you really are the antithesis of everything I am.
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Stephtastic Reply:
January 14th, 2010 at 10:52 am
not everything… we are both cooler than most people
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kristyn Reply:
January 14th, 2010 at 4:07 pm
i loved this entry, but seriously, STEPHTASTIC NEEDS A BLOG TOO.
remember how great vd used to be in grade school when everyone gave cards to each other? and the candy…and the wearing of red and pink. it’s a commercial day yes, but it’s also pretty darn happy.
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kristyn Reply:
January 14th, 2010 at 4:08 pm
i said vd and not vday earlier, then i reminded myself of a little thing called venerial disease. gosh.
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Jenn Reply:
January 15th, 2010 at 8:51 am
haha…I know what you meant. And no, I never liked it. Red and Pink don’t go together on any other day of the year. Fashion rules don’t cease to exist for 1 day!
January 14th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Thanks for stopping by my blog yesterday for my SITS day! I really appreciate all the comment-love!
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January 14th, 2010 at 12:57 pm
I am with you! v-day is ridiculous!!I can’t stand the commercialization of it all.
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January 14th, 2010 at 1:02 pm
Girl…. I’m with you! 114%!!
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Jenn Reply:
January 14th, 2010 at 2:21 pm
Thanks! I’m getting a lot of support on this one. It’s kind of nice!
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January 14th, 2010 at 2:14 pm
“Why not every day?” SERIOUSLY. THANK YOU. I hate v-day for all the same reasons you do. I told the guy I’m currently dating to please please please not do anything, but I doubt he’ll listen. Maybe I should use the break up threat too.
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Jenn Reply:
January 14th, 2010 at 2:20 pm
Yeah, then say “I’m kidding, I wouldn’t break up with you.” and then whisper in his ear “yes, I would.” Cause that’s crazier than not liking V-Day and he’ll forget to even try. (Please don’t take this advice. It’s horrible!)
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January 14th, 2010 at 2:28 pm
Shut up! You are so funny that you told your MVP that you would break up with him if he did anything for Valentines day. That is CRAZY great : ). I just banned my husband from buying me any more spur of the moment gifts! He has the worst taste in America : )
I have always loved Valentines day because I like the idea of love! The more love in the world the better!
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Jenn Reply:
January 14th, 2010 at 2:31 pm
Yeah I totally did. He doesn’t get subtle.
Have you tried leaving hints for your husband? Like pictures, or saying randomly how much you LOVE flowers in winter?
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January 14th, 2010 at 5:34 pm
I too am a V-Day hater!!
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Jenn Reply:
January 15th, 2010 at 8:50 am
I’m amazed that there is so much support here! Welcome to the club.
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January 14th, 2010 at 6:29 pm
you have stated all of my hateful loathing thoughts about valentine’s day. i agree with you pretty much 100% and i’m in a relationship too. have been for a year. out of all the ‘holidays’ this one is definitely the absolute worst.
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January 15th, 2010 at 9:56 am
Okay, I think you and I can be friends.
Not only do I love a good rant (and when other people rant as well), but I too am not the biggest fan of this dreadful excuse of a celebration.
Unfortunately, I am single so I still come off sounding bitter and lonely. However, I like to think I’d be just as cranky were I in a serious, loving and committed relationship.
Whatever. It’s dumb.
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Jenn Reply:
January 15th, 2010 at 10:14 am
Awesome I love new friends. I also love when people agree with me, so I think you and I will get along juuuust fine.
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January 15th, 2010 at 11:15 am
ack come on people give free love a chance
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Jenn Reply:
January 15th, 2010 at 11:22 am
Um, did I just flashback to the 60′s? VDay Really will be VD as Kristyn said if it’s about “free love”.
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Stephtastic Reply:
January 15th, 2010 at 11:51 am
the love’s free the condoms cost
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January 15th, 2010 at 11:39 pm
I feel like VDay was a bigger deal for me before I was in a relationship. Now it seems like another day for me to figure out what on God’s green earth to get for my Fiance who “doesn’t want anything” ever.
So we go out for dinner. Although now that I think of it, that’s pretty stupid since EVERYONE goes out to dinner and there’s always a wait.
Last year my Fiance got me flowers for VDay and they smelled so terrible that I couldn’t even be in the same room as them.
Pretty sure this year I’m going to suggest His n Hers naps.
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January 17th, 2010 at 3:55 pm
I never used to like Valentine’s day because for a long time, I never had a boyfriend. Even in elementary school I really didn’t like it because every year they did those valentine boxes and everyone in the class was expected to bring in valentine’s. Even then I felt pressure to do that and always hoped I’d get at least some in return. It was stressful.
My first Valentine’s day with first real boyfriend (now my husband) I had a cold and felt miserable. He used to go all out and I enjoyed it. I’d get him a card too. Now we just try to spend the day together doing something we enjoy.
Visiting from Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop.
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January 18th, 2010 at 11:07 am
V-Day sucks. I somehow always end up single on Valentines Day. I just do something fun for myself like watch a good movie or order a pizza. Even if I was in a relationship it’s so stupid that people have to do V-Day crap. Can’t you just treat that person awesome everyday of the year?
I’m from 20sb by the way
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Jenn Reply:
January 18th, 2010 at 11:25 am
Welcome to the winter of my discontent aka V-Day post. Can’t wait to return the visit of a like-minded individual!
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